How does one go from a good marriage to a great marriage? A husband and wife must never lose their commitment to each other. This commitment to both your mate and your marriage goes deeper than romantic love. It empowers you to keep an unbreakable covenant with your marriage partner regardless of unexpected circumstances. Our covenant God says to us, “I will make you my wife forever, showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion.” (Hosea 2:19).
My Covenant Commitment
C = Commit to working through problems and not walking away (1 Corinthians 7:27).
- Decide together that divorce is not an option.
- Agree to communicate feelings honestly and lovingly.
O = Offer love to your mate even when you don’t feel like it (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
- Evaluate how your love compares to that described in 1 Corinthians 13. Substitute your name in the place of the word “love” in verses 4-8.
- Pray daily for those who have hurt you—forgive and forgive again, refusing to keep a record of wrongs.
V = View your marriage as God’s setting for spiritual growth (Proverbs 15:13).
- Realize that God did not create any one person to meet all your needs.
- While God is your ultimate need-meeter, see your mate as God’s gift to meet some of those needs.
E = Eliminate any emphasis on your rights (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).
- Identify what makes you angry.
- Sensitively express your honest desires—”It would mean a lot to me if you would take out the trash.”
N = Nurture your identity in Christ (Philippians 4:13).
- Evaluate if your sense of self-worth is based on how your mate treats you.
- Acknow1edge that your true identity is in Christ, not in your mate.
A = Ask God to change you (Psalm 51:10).
- Evaluate what areas in your life need changing.
- Ask your mate, “Would you name one area in my life where you feel I need the most change?”
N = Nourish your extended family relationships (Exodus 20:12).
- Evaluate the tangible and emotional needs of your in-laws.
- Consistently look for the positive in your mate’s family.
T = Turn your expectations over to God (Psalm 62:1).
- Evaluate the unrealistic expectations you’ve had of marriage and your mate.
- Realize God can bring complete fulfillment to you regardless of your marriage partner.
Your Scripture Prayer Project: Ephesians 5:21, 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, I Corinthians 13:4-5, 1 Corinthians 13:6-7, Philippians 2:2-4, 1 Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:25, Mark 10:9
This covenant acrostic come from June Hunt [print_link] [email_link]