A Disciple’s Relationships

Christianity is nothing if not all about relationship – John 13:34-35, 15:13, 14-15, Matthew 11:19, Ephesians 2:19, 3:15, Hebrews 12:1-2, John 17:23, 10:10,

Circles of Friendship:

1. The Crowd (acquaintances)
2. The Casual (informal friendships)
3. The committed (close friendships)
4. The core (intimate friendships)

Pillars of Godly Relationships:

1. A renewed mind – Romans 12:1-2, Matthew 22:34-40, Ephesians 4:15
2. Grace – Romans 12:3, Ephesians 4:29, Hebrews 4:14-16
3. Humility – Romans 12:3, 16
4. Celebrating diversity – Romans 12:4-8
5. Love – Romans 12:9-10, Mark 12:28-34, John 15:12-17, 1 Corinthians 13
6. Honor – Romans 12:10, 13:7, 1 Timothy 5:17, Genesis 1:26, Hebrew 2:6
   • Acceptance
   • Affirmation
   • Appreciation
   • Approval
   • Admiration
   • Acknowledgement
7. Joyful and patient – Romans 12:12
8. Prayer – Romans 12:12
9. Sharing – Romans 12:13, Acts 4:32-35
10. Blessing – Romans 12:14, Matthew 5:44, Luke 6:27-28, Proverbs 15:1
11. Understanding and trust – Romans 12:15
12. Harmony – Romans 12:16-21

Maintaining Peace and Oneness: Ephesians 2:11-23, 4:4-6, 4:3

1. Walk in worthiness
2. Walk in humility – Matthew 11:29, Proverbs 13:10, Philippians 2:1-11, 1 Peter 5:5-6
3. Walk in gentleness – Matthew 11:29, Galatians 5:22-23
4. Walk in patience – 2 Peter 3:9, Nehemiah 9:17, Psalm 103:8
5. Walk in love

Walking Under Authority: Judges 21:25

1. Authority comes from God – Romans 13:1-2
   • Family – Ephesians 6:1
   • Government – Romans 13
   • Church – Hebrews 13:17
   • Employers – Ephesians 6:5-8
2. Blessings under authority – Ephesians 6:1-3, Colossians 3:20, Romans 13:5, Hebrews 13:17, 1 Timothy 6:1, Proverbs 6:20-22, 15:5, 1 Peter 2:13-14, 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13
3. Understanding submission – 1 Peter 2:13-15, 18-20, 21-25, Philippians 2:6-8, Matthew 26:36-46, Hebrews 5:7-10, 1 Peter 2:23, Acts 5:29
4. Properly appealing to authority – Daniel 1:8, 10, 11-13, 9, 14, 15-20

Singles and Relationships:

1. Attraction and love – Romans 12, Matthew 5:27-28
2. Growing a serious relationship – 2 Corinthians 6:14-18, Proverbs 11:14, 15:22, 24:6, Ephesians 6:2-3, Hebrews 13:7, Ecclesiastes 3:11, Proverbs 20:25
3. Sex in relationships – Genesis 2:24-25, 1:27-28, Proverbs 5:18-19, Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:1-5, Exodus 20:14, Judges 16:1-31, 1 Kings 11:1-13, Romans 1:18-32, 1 Corinthians 6:13-20
4. Walking in sexual integrity – Psalm 119:9-11, Romans 12:1-2, 7:14-8:4, Galatians 5:16-26, Ecclesiastes 4:12, 1 Corinthians 10:12-13, Hebrews 4:12-16, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Job 31:1, Matthew 5:27-28, Genesis 39:6-9, 9, 10, 11-12,
5. Steps to sexual freedom – 1 John 1:9, Psalm 51:10-12, 119:9-11, Romans 12:1-2, John 8:1-11, 1 Corinthians 10:31

Wisdom for Singles:

1. Jesus lives a single life – John 5:19, 17:4
2. Your commitment to God – Psalm 27:4, Matthew 6:33, 22:36-40
3. Your community – John 11:1-12:3
4. Your calling
5. Marriage considerations – 2 Corinthians 6:14-15, Galatians 5:22-23
6. Celibacy – Matthew 19:11-12, 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, 7-9

Family Life Basics:

1. God’s intention for the family (love, laughter, faith, safety, nurturing, purpose, children, kingdom)
2. Ten things Satan uses to destroy the family – John 10:10
   • Our own hearts
   • Lack of lordship
   • Low commitment
   • Not choosing love
   • Wrong priorities
   • Lack of training
   • Neglecting God’s plan
   • Independence
   • Communication problems
   • Life’s trials

The Marriage Relationship: Genesis 2:21-25, Hebrews 13:4, Matthew 19:4-6

1. What the Bible says about marriage – Genesis 2:24-25, Ephesians 5:31, Mark 10:6-9
   • Companionship – Genesis 2:18, Ephesians 4:26-27
   • Complement – Genesis 2:20-23
   • Commitment – Genesis 2:24 (spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, relationally, destiny)
2. Roles: Ephesians 5:21-33
   • Loving and supporting – 1 Peter 3:7, Genesis 2:18, 20-23, Proverbs 5:18, 12:4, 31:10-11, 21, 23, 26, 27, 28-29, 31, 12:4, Titus 2:4-5, 1 Timothy 2:1-2
   • Influencing and submitting – each are called to influence one another, each is called to submit to one another. Head is better described as “source” rather than leader or boss. (Head waters of a river are called the source).
   • Remember the cultural context of Paul’s day.

Parenting Wisdom: Psalm 127:3-5

1. Training children – Deuteronomy 6:4-9, Proverbs 22:6, Ephesians 6:4
2. Disciplining children – Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15, 17, Hebrews 12:7-11, Psalm 27:3

This is an outline of a workbook called, A Discipleship Journey by Dave Buehring, for my own quick reference. Please purchase his workbook since it has TONS more information and clarification on Making Disciples

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